For as long as I can remember people have offered me their unsolicited advice on my hair, my weight, my relationships, and anything else you can think of. I learned at a very young age that I couldn't let the opinions of others alter my visions of myself. At this point in my life I don't think that anyone's opinion of me is any of my business, I don't care. There have been plenty of people who praise my ability to shrug off things so easily just as there have been people who are offended by my ability to just cast their opinions to the side and move on. I've know plenty of people who allow what people have to say about them change how they view themselves. I simply do not have that complex. As long as you respect me in my presence whether you like me or not is completely null and void.
As I have faced different challenges in my life there is always someone there telling me what I should do. Since I've gotten married this happens more often than not opinions about the way I handle my stepchildren, my husband and myself.
Funny thing about it is it never comes from the only person that really matters. Trust me when you get married everyone will want to tell you what you need to do. Everyone wants to give their opinion on how your life should be working, it's nice to have a little bit of insight. At the same time, what works for your mom's marriage might not work for your's just like what worked for your grandma's marriage didn't work for her. Nobody can tell you how to be a wife to your husband. That's something you figure out on your own. There was a time that I was unsure whether I was doing the right things. After hearing so many opinions, I had been worn down, I started to doubt myself. Instead of looking to those whose opinions had placed the stress on me I looked to my husband. He assured me that there was no problem. To this day we have a very open line of communication, he tells me if I do something he doesn't like, I tell him if he does something that I don't like, and we have never been better.
So I have my own advice for you. If we ask for your opinion, please feel free to share with us! If we don't politely shut the fuck up and continue on with your day.